So, from what I gathered, you can only use a guide a single time to try to get to a friend's homestead.
From what I experienced, after trying to use the guide, I ended up having to cycle through 5 random places (presumably places with the same homestead secret), and after 5 tries, I was **** out of luck, I get no other chance.
So, is the ONLY WAY I can get another chance at joining my friend, to create a brand new character and abandon the 10 or so hours playtime I had on my other character all because of this awful system?