I have never found anyone to build a settlement with
And who didn’t allowed you to play together with a newb and teach him the basics?
Who didn’t allowed you to start over with new ppl and over time build a town?
There are plenty of ppl seeking ready towns to take them in Planters and Piligrims.
And how many had the incentive to make their own and invite ppl over? Right almost none, like you, because you chosed to do nothing, and in the end you learned nothing, since the first raid brought you down.
You join a town and you think that is all? Sooner or later you will be bored, since without goals to strive for this game is not interesting.
Farewell, may yo find other games where there are towns/ guilds out there ready to take you in so you could toil and be told what to do next.
One of my best friend said the same, when meth killed his main which was worth a mask in that time. Thats pretty sad that people need to experience something like that to rid off from game, but maybe thats better
Yes everyone is bound to have bad experience and lose something, but if it does not break your will it will make you stronger and wiser. It is all about the motivation. But is hard sometime to change your mind and is easier to give up.