thank you guys for the quick answers, i have it working now so im happy.
ohh and my suggestion for the title was mainley with this image in thaught since this was kinda the same pop up window that popped up on my comp. so i was trying to use search words like java security settings and so on wich got me quite stray in a wilderness of java threads with errors and what not. i was just lucky to finally stumble upon this thread