Shroodle:
The community here is quite toxic and filled with trolls. Don't take it personally, this is the way everybody gets treated here.
Welcome to the game, it has a lot of great moments, but you can also lose everything in a very short amount of time, especially if you don't know how to protect yourself. And usually you only learn that after you lost something, so losing and building is part of the game, but so is gaining and destroying.
When people tell you to invest in defence, do it, they are not kidding. Salem is dangerous and a meeting with someone outside your base can easily mean the death of your char.